ARLINGTON, TEXAS — A megachurch canceled a memorial service
for a Navy veteran 24 hours before it was to start because the deceased
Officials at the nondenominational High Point Church knew that Cecil
Howard Sinclair was gay when they offered to host his service, said his
sister, Kathleen Wright. But after his obituary listed his life partner
as one of his survivors, she said, it was called off.
“It’s a slap in the face. It’s like, ‘Oh, we’re sorry he died, but he’s gay so we can’t help you,'” she said Friday.
Wright said High Point offered to hold the service for Sinclair
because their brother is a janitor there. Sinclair, who served in the
first Gulf War, died Monday at age 46 from an infection after surgery
to prepare him for a heart transplant.
The church’s pastor, the Rev. Gary Simons, said no one knew
Sinclair, who was not a church member, was gay until the day before the
Thursday service, when staff members putting together his video tribute
saw pictures of men “engaging in clear affection, kissing and
Simons said the church believes homosexuality is a sin, and it would
have appeared to endorse that lifestyle if the service had been held
“We did decline to host the service — not based on hatred, not
based on discrimination, but based on principle,” Simons told The
Associated Press. “Had we known it on the day they first spoke about it
— yes, we would have declined then. It’s not that we didn’t love
Simons said the decision had nothing to do with the obituary. He
said the church offered to pay for another site for the service, made
the video and provided food for more than 100 relatives and friends.
“Even though we could not condone that lifestyle, we went above and
beyond for the family through many acts of love and kindness,” Simons
Wright called the church’s claim about the pictures “a bold-faced
lie.” She said she provided numerous family pictures of Sinclair,
including some with his partner, but said none showed men kissing or
The 5,000-member High Point Church was founded in 2000 by Simons and
his wife, April, whose brother is Joel Osteen, well-known pastor of the
38,000-member Lakewood Church in Houston. Now High Point meets in a
432,000-square-foot facility in Arlington, near Dallas.
Wright said relatives declined the church’s offer to hold the
service at a community center because they felt it was an inappropriate
venue. It ultimately was held at a funeral home, but the cancellation
still lingered in some minds, she said.
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